Homeopathy Tips for 1/13/09 Holding up the Mirror

     When receiving cases the homeopath listens and observes without prejudice.  Often this is a time that the client will share more about themselves than at any other time in their life. Aside from psychotherapy there are few other modalities that ask the client to speak so much about themselves. This requires a safe place and great trust. The homeopath must earn this by listening intently and never judging the clients suffering.

      Our job as homeopaths require us to determine what is asking to be healed. Often this is somewhat different from how the client sees themselves. As we determine what is asking to be healed it often seems as if we must hold some judgement about the client’s sufferings. This is true in a sense. Many times it is the seemingly inconsequential things they may report that will lead us to the remedy.

      After their case has been given I find that the person is in a very vulnerable place. Many times they have reported something they have never told another person in their life. There is rarely a new client case that the person does not cry at some point. This is usually the place that is really asking to be healed. Many times the person will report that they had no idea that they would come and talk about such subjects.

      This requires great skill and sensitivity on the part of the homeopath. It could be felt as harsh to just give the remedy and not offer some understanding of their sufferings after having just poured their heart out. I find in most homeopathic training that this vulnerable time is not addressed appropriately, if at all.

      What I have found works is what I call “holding up the mirror” . Holding up the mirror is a process that comes at the end of the case before the person leaves the office. Often I will share with them parts of their story that relates to the essence of the remedy I have just recommended. This lets the person know I have listened attentively and understand their sufferings. It also gives them back another version of their story. I find that this is homeopathic. At the time of such openness and vulnerability, giving the client your version of their story helps them hear it anew and gives them the opportunity for them to sort of fill back up. Many times I will take the content of their story and re-contextualize it. Offering it back to them in a slightly different context gives them the opportunity to reabsorb their story with a different view. It helps them separate a bit from it and see it as a story rather than their painful emotional experience.

        This process also allows me to share a bit about the remedy and how it relates to the context of their sufferings. Often the client will say something like “how did you know that about me?’ in response to this. This is when I will tell them that I was just repeating their story back to them in a slightly different context and that I have shared only information that they have already shared with me. It’s like holding up a mirror for them.

       As homeopaths we have a great responsibility to be sensitive with our clients. To let them walk out of the office without this process is not completing our job of being the compassionate homeopathic practitioner. Once a client leaves the office it is now their time to reflect about all they have shared. They should leave the office knowing that they have not been judged and that they will receive compassionate care. Holding up the mirror for them is a part of that process.

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23 comments so far

  1. Ejaz Mahmood on

    v. Good Articale and information. it help me a lot in future, bcaz at this time i am 4th year student of DHMS.

  2. Dr naseer on

    respect robert

    it is great effecot and help this article

    true idea writen about the patient. some of

    patient forget the symptom during take the history or some of them have psysic.

  3. K. Rajagopala Kurup on

    You have given gist. In addition if we can study little bit of their psychology also, I think we still improve upon the cure.

  4. Helena on

    Thank you for reminding this very important point. In the videos this is well shown. I do find this important for every situation in which practitionars of any profession work with people, given that it gives the client all his dignity and the responsibilty for their own treatment.

  5. Gail S on

    What you say really rings true. And not only in a professional context. A bit of nonjudgmental “homeopathic mirroring” could well come into play in day to day interactions with others. And even, it seems to me, with ourselves, at those times when the mind is running on and on, replaying something, being judgmental about oneself or others. One could just pause and LOOK and ask some “mirror-enhancing” questions: what am I really saying here? what does my heart and/or body really want to say? And so forth.

    Thank you for this thought-provoking article.

  6. Kristin Crowell on

    Yes, holding up a mirror is a very powerful and compassionate reflection for a client to hear/see. It is very different from common conversation when the listener says, “You should just let it go” or something equally as empty and invalidating. Very good article, Robert!

  7. Lucinda on

    I so appreciate your skill particularly when it comes to “holding up the mirror”. In that moment the remedy doesn’t matter to the client. What’s happened in the session is not just that the client has told their story and is then given a remedy. Sitting there after the gut spilling and feeling all was heard and acknowledged by another human being… well, there’s so much healing just in that process. Thanks Robert

  8. Kim Monroe on

    It is at this vital moment of the “reflection back from the mirror” the hardest place to be as the client. It is then that they recognize their vital force and the need to heal on all levels of being. It is this gifted skill you make look so easy Robert. I watch in amazement as each client, unique to their own, that come to us by way of paths crossed during the course of life; that agree to attend our classes. Each of these individuals will or will not make the conscience descision to begin their healing journey. As a student, YOUR student, I am blessed to be able to be a part of the art of pure homeopathy at it finest!!! Thank you Robert Field

  9. Joan on

    I know from my own past experience in seeing a homeopath that you are indeed right. The reliquishing and expolsion of deeply personal events/feelings has their way of coming to the surface during the intake/interview process. I know this often in itself creates a significant energetic shift in the person. How then, if at all, does this energentic reorganization/releasing of private pain affect remedy selection?

    Hi Joan,
    Often this process of holding up the mirror happens towards the end of the session, usually after the remedy has been selected. It is at this time that the remedy is being explained and how it applies to their story. As the story is now being repeated back to them it is in a slightly different context coming from me, the homeopath. This allows them to see their story a little differently and is homeopathic for them. At this time their comments usually confirm the remedy, not determine it.

    Warmest regards,
    Robert Field

  10. Rooksie on

    You have indeed releaved the key and essence to homeopathy thank you for your eloquence.
    Anyone who has gone to a good homeopath has received the kind of attention you describe.
    Being heard is half the healing in my opinion.

  11. Mah-jabeen on

    Thanks a important thing in practice .take care

  12. Dr.Sarfaraz on

    Thanks.The method helps to understand the problem of patient.Further being heard of patient gives prompt recovery to patient.

  13. VASANT on

    Cool, nice artcle.
    Thanks.

  14. Anthony (Australia) on

    Hi I Just went throught that process with a client 15 minutes ago. It is quite a release for them to share & also understand that others have experienced the same feelings. I like to give a dose of the remedy & talk a little more & observe the shift in the client. Thanks again Dr.Robert.

  15. DR.GHULAM MUSTAFA on

    Hay Mr. ROOBERT
    GOOD MORNING
    Todays article much help full to select the corect remedy as well as symptoms. best regards
    DR.GHULAM MUSTAFA SAHIWAL PAKISTAN

  16. DR.GHULAM MUSTAFA on

    Hay Mr. ROOBERT
    GOOD MORNING
    Todays article much help full to select the corect remedy as well as symptoms. best regards
    DR.GHULAM MUSTAFA SAHIWAL PAKISTAN

  17. Dr.tahira on

    This is very important in homeopathy in our
    daily practice to select a correct remedy.
    Thank you.
    Dr.Tahira.
    India

  18. Michelle on

    Mr. Field,
    Would you please give an example, especially of giving it back to them in a different context.

    thank you

  19. Dr.Aradhana Srivastava on

    Thank you Robert,
    This will Enhance the understanding and obsevation skills.

  20. dr. ghulam mustafa on

    Today’s article much help full to select the correct remedy as well as symptoms. best regards,
    DR. GHULAM MUSTAFA SAHIWAL PAKISTAN

  21. dr Sudhiir L Gesota on

    Beautiful sensitive Dr generates good results continue sharing thanx dr sudhiir 09892996338

  22. yogamamaonline on

    This is your best blog post ever!! Very interesting indeed. I wish you would have included an example of an actual case

  23. Ambika patnaik on

    Very Very informative.Psycho-analysis of individual has significant role to play in homeo treatment. Sir ,ur article shows the mirror to everyone persuing this branch of medicine.


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